Conflict Resolution
We have been in the midst of this series on conflict. Throughout the series the theme we have seen from Scripture is that we need to resolve our conflict now. Last week we talked about the 8 steps to conflict resolution. This week I"m going to answer some questions that people might be thinking, but also I'm going to give you a chance to answer specific questions that pertain to the issue of conflict resolution.
What I'm hoping for, is that you would interract with me on this blog by posting some of your questions that pertain to conflict resolution. I'll check the site throughout the week and respond as I can. I'm looking forward to a great discussion on a topic that is very serious to God's heart, and I'm sure to your heart as well.
Peace,
Pastor Brian
What I'm hoping for, is that you would interract with me on this blog by posting some of your questions that pertain to conflict resolution. I'll check the site throughout the week and respond as I can. I'm looking forward to a great discussion on a topic that is very serious to God's heart, and I'm sure to your heart as well.
Peace,
Pastor Brian
posted by Pastor Brian at
10:47 AM
6 Comments:
Pastor Brian,
I think my comment went someplace else. I was writing to the fact that your last two sermons was very helpful to me. It not only showed me what to do, it also made a good explanation of the various ways people react to conflict.
Conflict is a major part of relationships, is it not? We ask the Lord for deeper and better relationships with our family and friends. What would this look like in real life? Isn't that the part where examination could reveal conflicts in various areas of our friendships with family and friends? Am I off the mark to say that conflict is God's way of giving us opportunity to practice our relationship skills to get deeper and better relations with out family and friends??
Pastor Brian,
I should have previewed my comment before sending. The last sentence of my previous blog was ...better relations with out family and friends. It should be ...better relations with our family and friends. - sorry, thanks.
thanks for the thoughts... i think conflict is a means of sharpening each other so long as it is not originating from an offense. when i see it one way and another sees it another way, that sharpens us. when we sin against our brother/sister, then conflict is not a good thing, but it can be redeemed when we apply Godly principles to it. It is true that relationships that can survive and better yet, thrive through conflict are the relationships that will last forever. thanks again for the post!
saHow do you handle conflict with someone who abused you or someone you love? Is it necessary to reconcile if you have forgiven? I missed the second sermon so maybe you already covered this topic.
This is a question I had from the sunday service.
I have gone to my sister with remorse and asked her forgiveness, and she denies anything ever happened that I made it up, yet she remains very cold and bitter toward me. I threw every thing I could think of about our childhood up to the present and she remains in denial that a lot of it was my imagination. I want to assume that she just doesn't like me and wants to keep it that way. What else can I do??
great questions... I'll take the one about reconciliation and forgivness first.
the question was, "is it neccessary to reconcile with someone if you have forgiven them?" Forgiveness and reconciliation are not mutually exclusive. You can't have one without the other. To truly reconcile, you have to forgive, to truly forgive you have to reconcile. Remember, forgivness is a two way thing. I release myself from the burden of the offense and I release the other person from the burden of the offense. To attempt to forgive without reconciling is to only release yourself, and leave the other one captive to the offense. Does this mean you have to be best friends again? No way. But, it means letting that person know you have released them of the offense they have committed against you. (Much like God did in sending Jesus to die on the cross for us)
The 2nd question deals with someone who is in denial. When someone(s) has a differing reality that makes reconciliation very difficult. Differing opinions is one thing, but differing realities is another. To see it differently is far different than denying that "it" ever happened. I suspect that nothing good is going to happen till the other person has a "reality check". I would encourage you to pray to God asking Him to help you understand what is going on with her. Perhaps she really doesn't believe it happened, or perhaps she is burying it/denying it because to acknowledge it would be to painful. Either way I think you are at roadblock as far as connecting with that person. The only other way around it would be to find someone(s) else who acknowledges the reality of what happened and bring them in as a credible witness.
Great questions, I"m looking forward to more interraction on the blog!
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